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Just putting this out there, people (:, Well, here goes
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Hey folks, I know I'm still not the most well-known member either here or at MFGG, but I've gained some attention for the topic about my indie game, Skunk'd, not here but on MFGG specifically, and I've also been spending most of my free time working on Skunk'd, and thus am on the computer quite often, which means in turn I'm spending lots more time on BibbyTeam and MFGG, getting to know some of the members pretty well.

There's just something that's been bothering me, and it will come up in conversation at some point, so I thought it might be better if I just brought it up and see how people feel about it. Some of you might find it silly or unnecessary for me to post this, and hell, you might be right. But seeing as how I'm starting to become friends with some of you, I just want to make sure I won't come under fire for this at a really inconvenient time.


So... the point of that whole rambling was this: I'm an indie game developer, a guitarist, a songwriter, a music lover, a fun dude with a good sense of humor; I'm a lot of awesome things, and, oh yeah, I also just happen to have an overwhelming, one-sided preference for men over women.


Now, I don't want any of you to think I'm doing this for attention or to start fiery debates about the legal implications of gay marriage or views on religion. Not my intention at all. I just want to make sure that, even if you find my orientation offensive or whatever, that you won't let it affect the way you reply to me and will like me for who I am. 'Cause honestly, liking dudes is a very small part of me, and I guarantee that I don't get flirty or perverted with uninterested parties unless I'm joking. And joke I do; I probably make more gay jokes than half the homophobes in this world. You gotta learn to laugh at yourself, at least in my opinion.


I'd like to point out a member of this forum for being particularly accepting; Dazzle, during a conversation we had last night, dismissed my assertion that I was in fact gay as purely unimportant. That's the best reaction I could ask for from someone, honestly. So thank you very much, Dazzle, for being an accepting person.


There, I've said my piece. tl;dr? xD

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Okay.
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Haha. I figured I'd get the "uh, what?" response from at least one person, which is what I assume you're essentially saying from that one-word reply. Like I said, I'm not trying to start controversy or anything, I just wanna be sure I'm not gonna get verbally stomped out in the future if someone were to find out. Yeah, pretty insecure, I guess, but confidence has never been one of my more prominent qualities n.n;
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I've never had a problem accepting people's orientations and I never will. In other words, I accept it! Don't feel awkward! However, I don't see why anyone here would care, no offense, and I don't see what there is to confess, really. Thanks for the good intentions, I guess, but just know I would never mock someone for that. Not sure who else I can speak for.

I think I worded that pretty oddly but it was hard to word without using any personal examples.
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I don't find anything wrong with it. It's a way of life. Also.. I made my first game! It was from the tutorial on GameMaker but it was still fun!
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Okay.


It's not really a big deal.
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It's funny, but I really don't feel like I can appropriately deal with coming-outs. It's a weird over-dramatic situation that I really don't think should be necessary, but in our largely heterosexist culture I know that it's always going to feel like a big deal to the individual even when they're in a place surrounded by people who really don't care.

As you grow older and more experienced with dealing with this kind of thing, you're not really going to worry about people making a big deal of it. There's really nothing you can do about offending certain people- they're going to be offended regardless, so its best not to even bother worrying about it. As commonly misattributed to Dr. Suess, "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

of course i'm pretty sure what people are romantically/sexually interested in probably isn't something that'd come up here much anyway lol
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Well, I feel incredibly silly for posting this now. I didn't mean to come across as dramatic, but I suppose you're correct, Kesha, in saying that coming-outs in general are just melodramatic by nature and are largely unnecessary, especially in a place where sexuality doesn't really come up often (if at all).

That said, it's more surprising and refreshing than you'd think to have people irritated with the idea of coming out due to apathy (as opposed to the usual reason for being irritated).
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It's not really a silly thing to bring up- if you feel like it's something you need to bring up, then you certainly should feel comfortable bringing it up. What I mean about it not coming up much (if at all) is that even if people did have a problem with this, it really isn't something they're going to see much of.

I can't speak for the others, but I'm not irritated out of apathy to this sort of thing, I'm irritated that I just don't know what the best way to approach this sort of thing is. (Can people really be irritated out of apathy? I mean if they're apathetic about something, why would they be irritated lol...)
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Wow, I unwittingly created a lame paradox. Pretty impressive. :P

And as for what the best way to approach the subject is? Say exactly what you did in whatever way works for you. In other words, just say you don't give a flying hoot. ^__^
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